Illicit Love #3

Illicit Love #1

Illicit Love #2

There is no escaping from death. Once you taste death, you won’t taste life in this world again. How many times do we hear of instances where young girls and boys have passed away. Some have been murdered. Some have been martyred in other ways. Some have passed away due to accidents. May Allah save us from sudden deaths. Aameen. However, what i would like to divulge into today is not of death itself, but the fact that (Allah Forbid) we are engaged in the unlawful act of adultery, courting, dating etc and death has to overtake us. What a pitiful state that would be! May Allah save one and all!

Many youngsters have passed away while they were in a haraam relationship. How can we take the risk and get involved in such acts when we do not know when and how death will take us.

We do not know the extent of Allah’s Power therefore we should fear Him and avoid getting involved in such actions.

Haven’t we heard of girls who have destroyed themselves literally, due to the fact that their lover didn’t return their love? Illicit love relationships can lead to such problems. Many suffer depression and nervous breakdowns just for one boy!

O Muslim Ummah! Keep yourselves chaste for a marriage that has true and pure bliss…

Really though, when one is in a relationship what happiness does it bring? How much of happiness can it bring? He buys you red roses..they die. He buys you chocolate, it goes in your stomach, mixes, and turns into faeces at the end of the day. When you are perpetrating the actual act of zina, your imaan at that time isn’t intact. You become negligent of Allah Ta’ala.

Instead of Allah Ta’ala saying, “do not commit zina…” Allah says, “do not go near zina..”. Cuddling, hugging and kissing your significant other are actions that lead to zina. The Qur’aan isn’t ambiguous regarding this. The verse is clearcut. One can very well understand the connotation of going near to zina. All of this so-called love and infatuation is temporary.

It is mentioned in Moulana Yunus Patel rahmatullah alayhs kitaab that the second prescription is to immediately think: what will be my condition if I have to suddenly suffer paralysis, or I am suddenly seized by the angel of death, or if my sins become exposed? What will be my condition if Allah Ta’ala reveals all these secrets?

Keep thinking of the consequences and repercussions. Anything can happen
. Nothing is in our control. Nafs and shaytaan will constantly encourage us to sin, they will beautify sin for us in every way possible just so that we can be distanced from Allah Ta’ala…

Another prescription which the spiritual doctors prescribe is that of visualising the beloved. Visualise him/her in the 80th year of their life, with their back bent over, with no teeth, with white hair, ready for the grave.
Hadhrat Moulana Hakeem Akhtar sb rahmatullahi alayh had mentioned this reality so aptly, to create aversion in the heart for any illicit beloved;
“Why attach the heart to that…which will become…a decaying..a decaying, rotting corpse..”

Sometimes thoughts enter the mind regarding the beloved to an extent where it leads to fantasizing. Moulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi rahimahullah said, “at that time, think of somebody who, in your opinion, is really, really ugly and repulsive, with mucus coming out of the nose, with phlegm dribbling out of the mouth, with pus flowing out from sores on the body, and so forth.”


Illicit Love #2

There are many young boys and girls, as well as adults – both married and unmarried – who have some baggage of illicit relationships. They find it to be a great challenge and difficulty in trying to break away from the illicit relationships they were involved in previously.

Our Mashaikh have given us extremely beneficial prescriptions whereby we may come out of such sins.

Separating oneself from the sin is the first step towards redemption. One needs to break the relationship completely.

We can see very clearly the words that may be used by the couple have no modesty in them. Every action the couple perpetrates is shameless.

Nevertheless now that one knows the relationship is Haram, one must end the relationship for Allah’s Pleasure.

I have made sincere tawbah from whatever occurred in the past. I don’t want to contend with punishment in this world and in the hereafter. This relationship has made my life restless and full of worries and darkness. I have given up this relationship and will not go back. Allah Ta’ala’s Pleasure comes first.

One point worthy of mentioning is that if a couple decides to get married after ‘dating’, they should both engage themselves in Taubah and have remorse in their hearts for the wrong that they committed. In sha Allah, there will be barakah in the marriage and it will be saved from the ill effects of Shaytan.

The essence of all of this is sincerity. The greater the sincerity, the more extreme means the person will take to completely break the relationship. There have been instances where a couple may have been completely in love with their significant other bit sincerely for Allah’s Pleasure, they broke the relationship. Allah Ta’ala brought them back as a couple in a halaal way.

Nabi salAllahu alayhi wa salam said:

You will never leave something for the sake of Allah, but Allah will give you something better in return. [Musnad Ahmed]

This is great step towards change…and it may be an extremely difficult one but once a person makes sacrifices for Allah, he is blessed and showered with Allah’s Love and Mercy!

Illicit Love #1

Illicit Love

In the quest of true love, most of the youth today are caught up in insincere, false love. They are drowning in this so called love. More often, this false love is based on physical beauty. One is blinded into the thought that I am attracted to so and so which translates into love. He is my everything. She is my angel.

So very delusional.

So if someone handsome or beautiful comes along, attention is directed to him or her and the first love is forgotten. But that was never love. It was lust which is selfish and insincere.

Illicit love is another deception of shaytan so that we move away from and lose sight of the real and true love – which is the love of Allah Ta’ala. Effort needs to be made in developing the love of Allah Ta’ala which erases all the false idols from the heart and which washes the heart clean of dirt and filth of illicit love.

The test here is to tame one’s desire and create a strong connection with Allah Ta’ala. The Mashaaikh advise that one should ponder over the creation of insaan and then ponder over the creator. Insaan has dirty, impure blood. Insaan passes urine and stool.




The love of Allah Ta’ala is easily acquired by keeping the company of the sincere lovers of Allah Ta’ala and drawing that love from their hearts.

We are all encouraged in the Hadith to make this du’aa:

اللهم اني اسئلك حبك و حب من يحبك و العمل الذي يبلفني حبك

“O Allah, I ask for Your Love, and the love of that person who loves You and for those actions which attract Your Love.”

“Don’t court before marriage. Most couples court, court, and court, and after marriage, they end up in divorce courts!”

Hadhrat Moulana Yunus Patel saheb rahmatullahi alayh.

Reliance on Allah Ta’ala

Bismillahir Rahmaanir Raheem

Allah Ta’ala says in the Qur’aan:

“It is upon Allah alone that Muslims should place their trust.” (Surah Taubah)

Nabi salAllahu alayhi wa salam is reported to have said:

If you have to ask, ask of Allah alone. If you seek assistance, seek assistance from Allah alone. (Tirmidhi, Ahmed)

This Hadith explicitly negates asking anyone for assistance. The ONLY Being who we should divert our attention to is Allah. Allah is the Being who we are indebted to. The Being who we have to place our trust upon. We rely too much on creation. In every single rak’aat of Salaah, we utter the words “You alone do we worship and You alone do we ask for help.”

I came across an amazing incident which Haji Muhammed Faruq rahimahullah mentions:

I think it was around 1946 when one pious elder went for Hajj by ship via Karachi. The ship was caught in a storm, and the people began making this supplication: “O Ali! O Pir! O Dastagir!” . the ship began sinking even more. The pious elder said to them:

O servants of Allah! You are travelling to the house of Allah, yet you are calling on others apart from Allah?? Call on Allah Ta’ala and beseech Him.

They all turned to Allah and began praying to Him. The ship came out of the storm. The pious elder relates:

I was overcome by slumber. I saw Rasulullah salAllahu alayhi wa salam placing two fingers on the edges of the ship and removing it out of the storm.

So if you have to ask, ask of Allah Ta’ala alone.

Ml Ashraf Ali Thanwi rahimahullah said: There is so much of balance and moderation in the actions of Rasulullah salAllahu alayhi wa salma that even in his miracles – which are extraordinary events – the means and planning were taken into consideration. The invitation of Hadhrat Jabir radhiyAllahu anhu is testimony to this. Rasulullah salAllahu alayhi wa salam had instructed him not to remove the pots which were placed over the fire. Rasulullah salAllahu alayhi wa salam arrived, placed some of his mubarak saliva in the pots, and food which had been prepared for a few people sufficed for an entire army! Even if the pots were removed from the fire, the food would have been sufficient. However Allah Ta’ala bestows and gives behind the veil of means.
If a person has full conviction that everything happens by Allah Ta’ala’s will then when he succeeds in achieving something, he will not be proud nor will he brag, boast, or display conceit, and he will not consider the achievement to be the result of his own panning and intelligence.

The essence of all of this is :

Surely Allah loves those who place their trust on Him.”

The Islamic Dress Code


How saddening and devastating is it to see Muslim women dressed in clothes which do not resemble the Islamic dressing in any way…it has come to a point where we cannot differentiate between a Muslim and a non Muslim! Muslim women who are pearls…diamonds…valuable… precious pearls are displaying their bodies like it is nothing. How can we dress like that? How can we leave the honour Allah has given us to the filthy dress code of non Muslim people?
According to Imam Tahawi رحمة الله عليه who was a great Hanafi scholar, if one has to look at what is supposed to be the next persons satr (eg. thighs or navel) it is as if one is looking at their private area which is a great sin! Muslim young women are flaunting themselves with almost NO clothes?! It is so saddening to see a MUSLIM wearing a bathing suit… her satr is uncovered!!

It is permissible for a man to look at the entire body of his wife (and vice versa). (Fataawa Mahmoodiya vol.12 pg.360). However, it is advisable not to look directly at the private parts.
A man’s Satr is from below the navel to below the knees (in front of Ghayr Mahram, Mahrams and non-Muslims. (Shaami vol.1 pg.406; HM Saeed)
A woman’s Satr is from head to toe in front of Ghayr Mahrams. (Shaami vol.1 pg.407; HM Saeed)
A woman’s Satr in front of her Mahram is her entire body except her face, head, chest, arm and calf. However, if the woman feels that she is not safe from the desires of her Mahrams, it will not be permissible to expose even these parts. A woman’s Satr in front of other Muslim women is from her navel to below her knees, and in front of non-Muslim woman, her satr is her entire body except her face, hands, feet. And the Satr of old people in front of her grandchildren is same as the Satr for Mahrams. It is permissible to play with one’s baby cousins or other family members who are allowed in Nikah until they reach the age of sexual consciousness. (al-Fiqhul Islaam vol.4 pg.2650; Mahmoodiyah vol.17 pg.342)
and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai


In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful,
The Qur’an and Sunnah have laid down certain principles with regards to the dress code of both males and females. A Muslim and a Muslima are both required to adhere to the Islamic teachings both internally and externally.
Allah Most High says:
“And abstain from all sins, internal or external.” (Surah al-An’am, 120)
Regarding dressing, Allah Almighty says:
“O children of Adam! Surely we have bestowed upon you a garment to cover your shame, as well as to be an adornment to you, and the garment of piety is the best.” (al-A’raf, 26)
In view of the above-mentioned verse of the Holy Qur’an, other verses and sayings of our beloved Prophet (Allah bless him & give him peace), the Jurists (fuqaha) have deduced certain rules and principles with regards to the dress of males and females.

The following are the principles of dressing for females:
1) The whole body of the woman must be concealed. Only the hands and feet (and according to some scholars, the face, when there is no fear of Fitna) can be exposed. Allah Most High says in Surah al-Ahzab:
“And stay in your houses and do not display yourselves as in the days of Jahiliyyah (Ignorance).” (V: 33)
Allah Almighty further says in the same Surah:
“O Prophet! Say to your wives and daughters and the women of the believers, that they should cast upon themselves the outer garment (Jilbab). That will be more convenient for them not to be known (as such) and not be molested. And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.” (Surah al-Ahzab, 59)
In a Hadith recorded by Imam Tirmidhi (Allah have Mercy on him) with a authentic chain of narrators, the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said:
“A woman is supposed to be concealed. When she emerges outside (without covering herself properly), Shaytan makes her adorned in front of men.” (Sunan Tirmidhi)
It is clear from the above that a female must cover herself fully before coming in front of non-Mahram men. Even the hands and feet should be concealed, if possible.

2) The garment of the female must not be so thin that her body can be visible.

3) Her clothes must not be close-fitting and tight; rather they must be loose, as to avoid the figure and shape of the body being exposed and visible.
Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said:
“There are two types of the people of Hell whom I have not seen: People with whips like the tails of cattle, with which they beat the people, and women who are clothed YET NAKED, inciting men and their heads looking like the humps of camels, leaning to one side. They will not enter paradise and even smell it’s fragrance, even though it’s fragrance can be detected from such and such a distance.” (Sahih Muslim, no. 2218)
The above Hadith is clear in that the clothing of a female must not be transparent and/or tight-fitting. The meaning of “clothed yet naked” is nothing other than that.

4) There should be no imitation of the Kuffar (non-believers). In a Hadith recorded by Imam Abu Dawud (Allah have Mercy on him) and others, the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said:
“Whosoever imitates a nation is amongst them.” (Sunan Abu Dawud, no. 4031)
It should be remembered here that not everything what the non-Muslims wear and do, is Haram and unlawful. Imitation, which is prohibited, is effected in two ways:

a) One wears a particular type of clothing with the intention of imitating the Kuffar, meaning, one wears something because one wants to be like a particular non-believer or non-believers.
b) Wearing any clothing which is unique and exclusive to the non-believers and/or part of their religion, will be considered imitation, thus unlawful. (See the Fatwa of Shaykh Mufti Taqi Usmani in Taqrir Tirmidhi)
It becomes evident from the above that if a woman wears certain Western cloths for the sole reason of pleasing her husband, and no other men (Mahram or non-Mahram) see her, and she observes the full rules of Hijab when emerging outside, and the intention is not to imitate the Kuffar, then this would be permissible.

5) Any clothing which creates pride and arrogance in the heart must be avoided. In a Hadith recorded by Imam Ibn Majah (Allah have Mercy on him), the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said:
“Whosoever dresses himself out of pride in this world, Allah will dress him/her with the same clothing on the day of Qiyamah and he/she will be entered in to Hell.” (Sunan Ibn Majah)
6) Imitation of the opposite sex is also impermissible.
Sayyiduna Abd Allah ibn Abbas (Allah be pleased with him) relates, that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) “Cursed those men who imitate women and those women who imitate men.” (Sahih al-Bukhari, 7/205)

7) One should avoid being extravagant and spending lavishly on cloths. The meaning of being extravagant is to spend out on cloths to the amount which is beyond one’s normal capacity.
Allah Most High says:
And do not be extravagant, for Allah loves not the extravagant.” (Surah al-An’am, V: 141)

8) The clothes should be clean, pure and free from anything filthy and dirty, as purity is part of ones Faith (Iman).
The above are the Islamic principles with regards to the dressing of females. Some of these rules may also apply to males. It is evident that this subject is lengthy and needs much more elaboration than this small article. However, one may able to get the gist of what the Islamic guidelines are. This humble servant is, at present, working on this important subject and has an intention (Insha Allah) to publish a book which deals with all aspects relating to women’s Awra, dress and adornment. It needs 5 to 6 months and alot of Duas.

And Allah knows best
[Mufti] Muhammad ibn Adam
Darul Iftaa
Leicester , UK


May Allah Ta’ala grant us the Taufeeq to make amal on all of the above…
May Allah guide us, and make us a means of guidance, and guide all the people and jinn.

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