An excerpt from a nikaah bayaan from our Sheikh Hazrat Maulana Abdul Hamid Damaat Barakaatuhum:
Hazrat Maulana Maseehullah Saheb رحمة الله عليه says,
“Take a lesson from a young girl when she gets married.
“The world accepts that women are the weaker sex”
and they are delicate. Women are sensitive. A young girl of eighteen to twenty years, she enjoyed being with her parents, fighting and playing with her siblings, etc. However when she receives a proposal and accepts and says,
“Yes! I am prepared to marry this boy.”
Then Hazrat Maulana Maseehullah رحمة الله عليه says,
“She tares herself away from her family and comfort of her parents like silk being pulled out of thorns.”
The very same girl in her one “Yes!” Hands over her honour, her total izzat (respect), to her husband. The same girl who would never lower her garment, will do so for her husband. She will become such a person that despite having given up so much she will now try to keep her husband happy all the time. What a great sacrifice a woman makes for the husband.
A lesson for the husband is he must realise that his wife has made a very great sacrifice and she has come as an Amaanat (A great trust), so treat her as Amaanat and do not destroy it.
Another great lesson we learn from the sacrifice a woman makes is just as she is able to pull herself away from her family we should also pull our Rooh (soul) away from all the thorns the gunnahs (sins) we commit and we should hand ourselves over to Allah Ta’ala.
A husband will appreciate or he may not appreciate his wife for her sacrifice, Allah Ta’ala will definitely appreciate a person in such a way one cannot imagine. Allah Ta’ala will appreciate a person for giving up his desires. Therefore we should take lesson from these young girls and how they hand themselves over on the occasion of Nikah. We should hand ourselves over to Allah Ta’ala.
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